The Same Smile is ultimately the story of a family that has
transformed enormous pain and suffering into a joyous ability
to embrace the patterns that life offers up and to make something
very beautiful out of both the darkness and the light...
Maureen O'Donnell
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Your story is so amazing (as you know better than anyone, having
lived it). I love that your book honors your pain and your loss
without resorting to bitterness. I am in awe of your spirit
and the creative and loving ways you've managed to pay tribute
to your soul's awakenings and to your heart's darkest times.
I'm sure you've heard it a million times but your story gives
people a glimpse of a larger force at work in our lives ~ one
that hovers over our losses, weaving them into something gained.
Of course, that doesn't mean we don't mourn what has passed
from our lives and who is gone. It means we do what you have
done and embrace a path that sees where things lead. And, it
means that we do what we can to shape that path while we willingly
set our foot upon it, as it already is. It means that we re-cover
and re-claim and ultimately, redeem our pasts by living into
our futures. (Maureen - Massachusetts)
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"'The Triumph of A Mother’s Love' is a perfect sub-title.
My favorite stories are stories of the triumph of the human
spirit. Susan tells her story so well; all the sadness and
joy seem ready to jump out from the pages. I, especially,
loved reading Joanne’s thoughts during early contact and
reunion - so typical of how so many adoptees feel, but to
see it in print is amazing." (Sally -
Wisconsin)

"I so enjoyed reading your book. It made me cry and it made
me smile. I have seen the happiness of childless couples who
finally get the chance to adopt – but your book brings to
light the great sacrifice a birth mother makes. I am glad
your book was filled with so much love." (Janice
– Massachusetts)

"Just have been reading every spare moment. I find myself
delaying the things I need to do, only to read." (Jean
– Michigan)

From an adoptive father…"Your description of how you felt
blessed for your daughter to have been cared for and loved
so much by her adopted family was so powerful to me. We have
tried so hard to give our son a good home and family. God
gave us such a gift." (Dwight - California)

"This is the first adoption related anything I will share
with my dad. I feel comfortable with this book. I think, if
he reads it, it may open up a dialogue that hopefully will
be a little deeper than we’ve gone before."
*Later that day…"My dad just stopped by and mentioned he
was half way thru your book. He said that while reading, he
couldn’t help but think of how I must have had a yearning
all these years to know my son. I can see that he might actually
be 'getting it!'" Sandi – Michigan)

"I just want to you to know that my husband read your book
cover to cover yesterday. I even saw a few tears shed…He said
the book read so well and was so riveting that he couldn’t
put it down. How’s that for an endorsement from the male faction?"
(Susan – New Hampshire)

"'The Same Smile' is so readable, honest and pulls you into
the life of a pregnant young woman in the 60’s and the effect
it has on her life in years to follow. My husband read it
and it spoke to him. I also had a friend read it who is not
a birthmother and her first comment was, 'Now I understand
about the regression.'" (Gloria – Wisconsin)

"Your book will undoubtedly be very valuable addition to
the 'adoption library' – will give other birth mothers a
feeling of not being so alone in what we felt/feel. It will
paint a picture for our children that many birthmoms cannot
express to their children themselves, of how we never forgot
them and yearned for them all the years of our separation.
So well done! Thank you for having the courage to use your
own pain and your own journey to healing to help others."
(Judy – England)

"Wow, you had a great way of intertwining and unfolding
the experiences of your life. I cried most of my way through
the book! Some parts because I have been there - done that
and others because my heart broke for you, with all you lived
through with Jackie.
Very insightful for us birthmothers to hear what Joanne was
living through also, as the book unfolds." (Marilyn
- New Jersey)

"The feelings you shared throughout the book sounded like
I wrote them. Thanks for putting 'our' feelings down on paper.
This book will truly bless other birth moms and adoptees."
(Linda – California)

"I finished your book last night and WOW! What a journey
– I loved it! I loved the honesty, warmth, and strength
you expressed. The book made me think and feel ways about
my adoption search that I had never considered.
The part that really got me was when Joanne was looking at
you from across the room and she came over with tears in her
eyes, hugged you and said 'you stand like a duck.' I lost
it! As simple as that statement was, so many people take that
sort of thing for granted but for an adoptee it’s huge.
I also stand like a duck and wore corrective shoes as a toddler!
Thank you so much for sharing your experience with the world."
(Kelli – California)

"'The Same Smile,' a wonder book…it lets others realize
what we first mothers really went through and what we even
go through today, reliving every moment of the past. The best
book I’ve read." (Mayre – Kentucky)

"'The Same Smile' is a very joyous book about triumphing
over adversity." (Kathy – Colorado)

"You and Joanne did a wonderful job of making the reader
part of your story. The honest way you dealt with your feelings,
the insights offered, and the dual writing as you got to know
each other was unique and just great to read. Thank you both
for sharing your reunion with us." (Judy
– Ohio)

"I found your book to be a savior for me in my reunion with
my daughter. During the different stages of reading your beautifully
written story, I kept saying out-loud, 'that’s exactly how
I feel.' It’s comforting to know we are not alone in our
search, reunion struggles.
You’re a true inspiration and I thank you for writing this
book." (Meg – New York)

"I thank you for sharing your story with the world. I am
so, so grateful for my two precious daughters and look at
them differently since I read your book. As every mother does,
I have recently been through some difficult times with my
older daughter, but after reading your book, I am ashamed
to even think I have any problems. I only wish you could sell
a little bit of your strength along with your book! If there
is a Same Smile II, I want a copy." (A.G.
– Massachusetts)

"I was touched by Joanne’s honesty. It must have been hard
at first to hear how honest she was. Thanks for writing your
story. It has touched my life." (Amy –
Illinois)

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